At this time of year, most people look at the future and start planning for New Year..
You know the one, "New Year, New You" Guess what? This is bollocks (in my opinion)
Why do you need a new you? What's wrong with the existing you? Why do you need to change?
Here is the problem, we are being taught to think outside of ourselves. The old "I will get back at" bullshit that destroys people.
Action is the only way. Grind and fucking hard work. Forget what happened last year, you made those decisions because they were right at the time. You got a result from them, if you want a different result, then do some different things.
In 2013, set some goals that inspire, stop focusing on last year's problems. Stop blaming shit relationships or the other person, they made their choices, you made yours. Life will go whether you like it or not.
Make commitments to yourself, strong statements that mean something and then follow that up with action. Stop talking and fishing for sympathy. Act, act and then fucking act some more. Make mistakes, be human and never stop learning.
2013 will not do you a favor. It won't. The past only exists in your head. Movement is the only way, keep move forward, turn the fucking TV off and stop gossiping.
You are here once and every day you can make a difference, set some goals that scare the shit of you and commit to achieving them or die trying.
Fuck motivation
Fuck inspiration
Take no days off
Just fucking turn up!
Happy New Year.....
Thursday 27 December 2012
Thursday 18 October 2012
Why I succeed and fail
Life does strange things, it really does.....
We question everything and desperately try and find ways to explain why things happen.
I guess the reality is that things just "happen" sometimes, we have to learn to accept that.
Based on this, I want to give people a few people why I succeed and fail, this may help, it may not. You may think I am a arrogant twat, you may not, but here goes....
I succeed because....
I live my own life
I never let anyone else tell me what I can and can't do
I will walk away from anyone who tells I can't do anything, no matter who they are
I will enjoy the small things
I will be in awe of the big things
I will love myself and the one live I have
I will respect and love those who respect and love themselves
I will not gossip
I will not complain
I will use integrity even if that means upsetting people
I will apologize whether I am "wrong" or not
I will move my ego out of the way
I will feel blessed to have the things I have
I will not envy or miss the things I don't have
I will respect nature
I will work hard
I am kind
I know my mistakes
I am proud of my mistakes
I love people in all their diverse wonder
I will not rest until the job is done
I will honor my body and health
I will find myself and my purpose
And most of all, I will succeed because I fail, I hurt and I take the blows with dignity.
F@#k motivation and just turn up
John
We question everything and desperately try and find ways to explain why things happen.
I guess the reality is that things just "happen" sometimes, we have to learn to accept that.
Based on this, I want to give people a few people why I succeed and fail, this may help, it may not. You may think I am a arrogant twat, you may not, but here goes....
I succeed because....
I live my own life
I never let anyone else tell me what I can and can't do
I will walk away from anyone who tells I can't do anything, no matter who they are
I will enjoy the small things
I will be in awe of the big things
I will love myself and the one live I have
I will respect and love those who respect and love themselves
I will not gossip
I will not complain
I will use integrity even if that means upsetting people
I will apologize whether I am "wrong" or not
I will move my ego out of the way
I will feel blessed to have the things I have
I will not envy or miss the things I don't have
I will respect nature
I will work hard
I am kind
I know my mistakes
I am proud of my mistakes
I love people in all their diverse wonder
I will not rest until the job is done
I will honor my body and health
I will find myself and my purpose
And most of all, I will succeed because I fail, I hurt and I take the blows with dignity.
F@#k motivation and just turn up
John
Wednesday 10 October 2012
Party? That's bullshit.....
I must be getting old....
I have noticed over the last few years that music videos and reality TV are now sending out the message that life is one big party....
On what planet?
Don't get me wrong, life is fun and is a great adventure if you treat as such...
The problem is that these images and creations make you think that you can party all the time and live it up. There are some people on this planet that can do this, the really, really rich people that don't need to work.
The reason that most rich people don't need to work is down to the fact that they had to work lie dogs to get in that position...
The new wave of good looking people go clubbing all the time is not real and by sitting there watching it, you don't give yourself even the remotest chance of getting anywhere near it.
I am really conscious of "preaching" hey if you want to watch "Towie" that is your bag and no one should judge you for that. The problem is the message that teenagers and kids are getting, thinking that life is one big ball of fun and parties.
It isn't, it is a roller coaster of emotions, challenges and loss. Good times and bad times. We are not teaching people how to handle the ups and downs and then telling them that life is one big party. Not cool.
Everything costs money and to earn money that gives you the flexibility to do whatever you want, takes a HELL of work, no partying, no TV and you have to have stamina.
For me, this work is the fun bit, but for most people making the decision to choose a more "positive" path, it isn't much fun at the start.
For life to be a party, it needs to be earned. Simple as that....
(Party pooper)
John
I have noticed over the last few years that music videos and reality TV are now sending out the message that life is one big party....
On what planet?
Don't get me wrong, life is fun and is a great adventure if you treat as such...
The problem is that these images and creations make you think that you can party all the time and live it up. There are some people on this planet that can do this, the really, really rich people that don't need to work.
The reason that most rich people don't need to work is down to the fact that they had to work lie dogs to get in that position...
The new wave of good looking people go clubbing all the time is not real and by sitting there watching it, you don't give yourself even the remotest chance of getting anywhere near it.
I am really conscious of "preaching" hey if you want to watch "Towie" that is your bag and no one should judge you for that. The problem is the message that teenagers and kids are getting, thinking that life is one big ball of fun and parties.
It isn't, it is a roller coaster of emotions, challenges and loss. Good times and bad times. We are not teaching people how to handle the ups and downs and then telling them that life is one big party. Not cool.
Everything costs money and to earn money that gives you the flexibility to do whatever you want, takes a HELL of work, no partying, no TV and you have to have stamina.
For me, this work is the fun bit, but for most people making the decision to choose a more "positive" path, it isn't much fun at the start.
For life to be a party, it needs to be earned. Simple as that....
(Party pooper)
John
Wednesday 3 October 2012
Don't take it personal
I have a few little rules that I live by. These have developed over time and now seem to keep me from really going insane!
I have some things that I believe are necessary life skills as well. These aren't talk in schools or by most parents but in my opinion are essential to get through the challenges....
The first one is this, don't take things personally....
Tough, tough and mega tough.......
The reason not to take things personally is quite simple and again in my opinion is one of the "keys to the car"
Ready?......
People can only think about themselves......
Gasp......
Sorry, no need for sarcasm but seriously, think about it. We only judge things based on our own lives and own perceptions. Based on this, people can only think about themselves and their own experiences when they do and say things.
Here is the funky bit....
If this is true (and reckon it is) then when people attack you personally they have to base their opinion on their own experience. This means that it cannot physically be personal as no one can tell you who and what you are.
We have coached over time to believe that we aren't in control of what goes on. Trust me, you are.....
In my opinion, no one can judge you. No family member, no company and no religion. You know you and you know what you want.
Be your own person, listen to your inner self and be happy.
Don't take shit personally and keep moving.....
Cuddles
John
I have some things that I believe are necessary life skills as well. These aren't talk in schools or by most parents but in my opinion are essential to get through the challenges....
The first one is this, don't take things personally....
Tough, tough and mega tough.......
The reason not to take things personally is quite simple and again in my opinion is one of the "keys to the car"
Ready?......
People can only think about themselves......
Gasp......
Sorry, no need for sarcasm but seriously, think about it. We only judge things based on our own lives and own perceptions. Based on this, people can only think about themselves and their own experiences when they do and say things.
Here is the funky bit....
If this is true (and reckon it is) then when people attack you personally they have to base their opinion on their own experience. This means that it cannot physically be personal as no one can tell you who and what you are.
We have coached over time to believe that we aren't in control of what goes on. Trust me, you are.....
In my opinion, no one can judge you. No family member, no company and no religion. You know you and you know what you want.
Be your own person, listen to your inner self and be happy.
Don't take shit personally and keep moving.....
Cuddles
John
Monday 1 October 2012
The system works.....hang on a minute
After talking about nature, it makes me think about the system.....
Nature is a system and the good news is that the system works.....
You have to work though, if you work, the system does....
Here lies the problem, things like 9-5 Monday to Friday have been created to make us think that work and god dam it even life have structures that we need to box ourselves into.
The box you will end up in is the box that carries you to your final resting place. When that time comes, what will you have wanted to do with your "one wild and precious life"
Personally I would rather lose everything than fit into the structures that have been created to make us "labour" and turn some of us into mindless drones.
Lessons learnt here, you life is your own. Every choice you make is yours as well. Let no one tell you there is a set path where you need to head. That includes me.
The point? Look back at the system and look at nature. Nature rewards that which is "earned" if you want the good stuff, then you need to break society rules (not the law) Things that have been designed to make you think you are not the most creative, beautiful and dam unique creature on earth.
Every decision counts folks, use it wisely. Live your own life and make your choices. The hardest thing you ever do is fighting back. Anyone who made themselves ill or broke and says life is hard is lying, I am sorry but they are lying. You know why? The excuses come easy....
If you want a good life and a memorable one, for my money at least, having no excuses and taking full responsibility for everything is the hardest thing you will ever do.
Guess what though? When you pass, you will look back and say "fuck me, I had a go"
Leave a mark, start today.....
John
Nature is a system and the good news is that the system works.....
You have to work though, if you work, the system does....
Here lies the problem, things like 9-5 Monday to Friday have been created to make us think that work and god dam it even life have structures that we need to box ourselves into.
The box you will end up in is the box that carries you to your final resting place. When that time comes, what will you have wanted to do with your "one wild and precious life"
Personally I would rather lose everything than fit into the structures that have been created to make us "labour" and turn some of us into mindless drones.
Lessons learnt here, you life is your own. Every choice you make is yours as well. Let no one tell you there is a set path where you need to head. That includes me.
The point? Look back at the system and look at nature. Nature rewards that which is "earned" if you want the good stuff, then you need to break society rules (not the law) Things that have been designed to make you think you are not the most creative, beautiful and dam unique creature on earth.
Every decision counts folks, use it wisely. Live your own life and make your choices. The hardest thing you ever do is fighting back. Anyone who made themselves ill or broke and says life is hard is lying, I am sorry but they are lying. You know why? The excuses come easy....
If you want a good life and a memorable one, for my money at least, having no excuses and taking full responsibility for everything is the hardest thing you will ever do.
Guess what though? When you pass, you will look back and say "fuck me, I had a go"
Leave a mark, start today.....
John
Thursday 27 September 2012
Self help sucks!
I am quite a spiritual person....
I like balance, kindness and generosity.....
I can however get a little bit edgy with the whole "self help" thing......
This week I saw a couple of things that got my goat. Lets be honest, we are on the sell to a certain degree, just be honest.
Most of us have products or services that we have to distribute in order to make living.
On this basis, let's be honorable and give people support and guidance. People don't need patronizing or "patting on the head" People certainly don't need "fixing" either.
Listen I am a bad ass mother fucker that devotes his life to the service of others. My biggest mistake though is my "I am more holier than thou" bullshit. I apologize if I have ever come across this way.
This is why most modern day self help sucks beyond belief! It's cheesy and patronizing and makes me sick.
I am not right, I am just saying in my opinion that as people who choose to help people, we should stop being false. If you are on the sell, then cool but don't give the spiritual one and look through your nose at people.
This fluffy nonsense isn't going to dig us out of the shit that we are currently in. Most "guru's" have never been there and experienced what the bottom of the barrel looks like and most people that need help don't give a sac of monkey crap what you think you are.
The classic is last weeks "leisure industry week" which showcased in all it's spandex clad glory an industry that is failing. Obesity costs this Country £16 billion per year, I don't think it's time for us to raise a chemical filled glorified milkshake in celebration just yet...
I rest my case....
I like balance, kindness and generosity.....
I can however get a little bit edgy with the whole "self help" thing......
This week I saw a couple of things that got my goat. Lets be honest, we are on the sell to a certain degree, just be honest.
Most of us have products or services that we have to distribute in order to make living.
On this basis, let's be honorable and give people support and guidance. People don't need patronizing or "patting on the head" People certainly don't need "fixing" either.
Listen I am a bad ass mother fucker that devotes his life to the service of others. My biggest mistake though is my "I am more holier than thou" bullshit. I apologize if I have ever come across this way.
This is why most modern day self help sucks beyond belief! It's cheesy and patronizing and makes me sick.
I am not right, I am just saying in my opinion that as people who choose to help people, we should stop being false. If you are on the sell, then cool but don't give the spiritual one and look through your nose at people.
This fluffy nonsense isn't going to dig us out of the shit that we are currently in. Most "guru's" have never been there and experienced what the bottom of the barrel looks like and most people that need help don't give a sac of monkey crap what you think you are.
The classic is last weeks "leisure industry week" which showcased in all it's spandex clad glory an industry that is failing. Obesity costs this Country £16 billion per year, I don't think it's time for us to raise a chemical filled glorified milkshake in celebration just yet...
I rest my case....
Tuesday 25 September 2012
Nature or how s@#t works
Nature is awesome! Wind blows, sun rises and the tide goes in and out....
This happens and keeps happening....
So here is a question, why then do human beings think we can mess with it?
Nature doesn't make mistakes and no matter how much we feel bitter, twisted or anything, nature does what it does......
Makes you think, right?
Probably not........
Try this then....
We work in a system, nature rewards the salmon that seems up stream not the one that says down the bottom watching Eastenders.....
The system works if you do. One of the human races biggest frustrations is the inability to control nature. Makes me fucking howl, it really does.
Ever heard the phrase, "the richer get richer and the poor get poorer?" yep, it's funny that! It's designed that way brain box!
My advice is to sit down and really think about nature and the way shit works and then make your life plan.
My field is weight loss, if you eat sugar and processed crap and don't move, you get fat, you get ill and that's that.
Not personal, just nature. Nature, nature and more nature!
Bored of the word yet? Get working with the system and watch it work for you!
Tally ho!
This happens and keeps happening....
So here is a question, why then do human beings think we can mess with it?
Nature doesn't make mistakes and no matter how much we feel bitter, twisted or anything, nature does what it does......
Makes you think, right?
Probably not........
Try this then....
We work in a system, nature rewards the salmon that seems up stream not the one that says down the bottom watching Eastenders.....
The system works if you do. One of the human races biggest frustrations is the inability to control nature. Makes me fucking howl, it really does.
Ever heard the phrase, "the richer get richer and the poor get poorer?" yep, it's funny that! It's designed that way brain box!
My advice is to sit down and really think about nature and the way shit works and then make your life plan.
My field is weight loss, if you eat sugar and processed crap and don't move, you get fat, you get ill and that's that.
Not personal, just nature. Nature, nature and more nature!
Bored of the word yet? Get working with the system and watch it work for you!
Tally ho!
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